Let’s be honest, everyone who’s ever planned a trip to Paris has probably wondered if Parisians are rude. This question usually stems from stereotypes and what we see in movies and on TV. It’s a natural assumption, but is it really true?
More Than Meets the Eye
Well, the answer is not so simple. Parisians, while maybe not as outgoing and smiley as people from other cultures, aren’t necessarily as grumpy as their reputation suggests. The truth is, Parisians have certain unspoken rules they expect everyone to follow, both locals and tourists. This isn’t unique to Paris, though. New Yorkers, for example, are also known for their directness, which can sometimes be misconstrued as rudeness.
The Tourist Factor
What might be the real problem is the word “tourist” itself. It automatically labels someone as naive and clueless, which can be unfair. Think about this: If you were walking down the street and someone approached you speaking a language you didn’t understand, wouldn’t you feel a little uncomfortable?
A Case in Point
Let’s look at a real-life example. I was once at a busy clothing store when an American woman, dressed in bright green sweats emblazoned with the word “PINK” (a common brand), walked up to a cashier and loudly shouted, “Where are your bathrooms?”. The cashier politely replied, “Bonjour”, but the woman simply ignored him and repeated her question.
“Yea, hi. Where are your restrooms?” she asked impatiently.
“Well, where am I supposed to go?” she asked, clearly annoyed.
“Across the street, there’s a public toilet,” the cashier responded.
The woman then proceeded to loudly complain about this, making sure everyone in the store could hear her. The other shoppers, including myself, couldn’t help but roll our eyes and sigh.
This incident perfectly illustrates what Parisians find frustrating about some tourists.
Rules for a Smooth Trip
So, what are some simple rules for making your Paris trip a more positive experience? Here’s what I suggest:
Saying “Bonjour” is Key
First and foremost, say “bonjour” when approaching anyone, even if you’re not fluent in French. This simple greeting is a sign of respect and a good starting point for any interaction. Whether you’re at the airport, entering a shop, or ordering a coffee, a “bonjour” goes a long way. Don’t forget to say “au revoir” when you leave!
Stay On the Right Side
When walking on the sidewalk, stick to the right side. This is a basic rule of courtesy, especially in busy cities. Don’t stop in the middle of the walkway, even if you’re admiring the view.
Don’t Overdo It
Finally, be aware of your appearance. French women are known for their stylish and understated looks. While you don’t have to dress like a Parisian, it’s best to avoid excessive revealing clothing. Think twice before wearing a short skirt and low-cut top. And remember, French people are very aware of what you’re saying even if it’s in English.
Adapting and Respecting the Culture
In a nutshell, Parisians don’t appreciate tourists who act entitled and ignore local customs. They don’t expect you to be perfect, but they do expect you to make an effort to adapt to their culture. So, learn a few basic French phrases, dress appropriately, and try to be aware of your surroundings. If you’re respectful and mindful, you’ll have a much more enjoyable and memorable trip.
