Sometimes, the best way to approach the challenges of adult life is to embrace a little artistry. You know, like when you find yourself juggling multiple tasks and deadlines at once, all while trying to be the perfect partner, friend, and employee.
It’s a common struggle, right? We often fall into the trap of “hustle harder, get further” or the “go big or go home” mentality. But this can lead to feeling overwhelmed, especially when we’re trying to host a simple get-together at home. It can quickly turn into a full-blown event!
Finding Balance: Embrace the “Art of Living”
But there’s a way out of this endless chase for perfection. There’s a beacon of grace and “I don’t give a darn” attitude to emulate: the Frenchwoman.
I know what you’re thinking: “Another French cliché?” But hear me out. Despite the often exaggerated portrayal of French women, there’s a lot to be learned from their “art of living,” or “art de vivre.”
Four French Life Lessons
I discovered these four valuable life lessons during my time in Paris, all inspired by their glorious dining culture:
Lesson 1: Enjoy the Simple Pleasures
Remember that old saying, “The world is going to end anyway?” Well, not exactly. But the French embrace the “live for today” attitude. They appreciate the simple pleasures, like enjoying a fresh baguette with their meal.
They value indulgence, but they also practice moderation. Dessert might be a decadent almond and apricot tart, but it’s also served alongside fresh fruit and yogurt. It’s all about finding that perfect balance between gratifying your senses and taking care of your well-being.
Lesson 2: Less is More
We’ve all heard the styling tip: “Remove one item before walking out the door.” This principle of simplicity can apply to any aspect of life, even your social gatherings.
Resist the urge to go overboard with elaborate decorations. Fresh flowers and tea lights are more than enough. Invest in durable, beautiful tableware and silverware, and leave it at that. Sometimes, less really is more.
Lesson 3: Embrace the Local Market
In France, a meal starts at the market. It’s a beautiful thing to see people buying directly from the producers at prices often lower than grocery stores. It’s a practical, affordable, and enjoyable way to shop.
Shopping at the market is also a great way to release control. You can’t expect to make your signature peach tart in December, but does it really matter? After all, pears are just as tempting!
Lesson 4: Respectful Etiquette
There’s a certain etiquette to French dining, and some of it might seem a bit old-fashioned or even superfluous.
But it’s important to remember that these rules have a purpose. For example, did you know that there’s a proper way to cut every single cheese? It might seem like a silly rule, but it’s about ensuring everyone gets a fair share of the cheesy goodness. And it’s actually quite thoughtful, right?
Combining the Best of Both Worlds
At the end of the day, our to-do lists will keep growing, and the pressure to be the perfect host, friend, and employee won’t disappear. But we can choose to be mindful of what we impose on ourselves and how we react.
There’s a beautiful connection between caring for others and caring for ourselves. The American mantra may be “go above and beyond, and do it with a smile on your face,” but the French approach is more about “living on your own terms and enjoying the ride.”
Perhaps the sweet spot lies somewhere in between these two approaches. After experiencing both cultures, I’ve come to realize that the most fulfilling life comes from balancing the American drive with the French appreciation for life’s simple pleasures.
What are your thoughts on French dining etiquette? Share your experiences and insights in the comments below!
